Sea of Lies

We’re sold untruths by a perfect facade
‘You need to fit in,
Wear a mask and they’ll love you’
Let the game begin.

Her heart aches
Heavy with the weight of words
‘You look pretty today’
Is this all she has to say?

Her message to the world is more than her appearance
Passion crying to be heard
They say the mask will set you free
She felt trapped, but now can see.

They all have something to sell
Something to gain
They don’t care about your happiness
They care less about your pain.

When you start to cry, ‘lies!’
They laugh, avert their eyes
Denial is the great escape
But they cannot run from fate.

The mask will fall
All in good time
They will find
There’s nowhere left to hide.

When perfection unravels
The shell is in plain sight
Empty, broken
The concealed truth is spoken.

What they sell is not all it implies
In this game of hide and no seek
Nobody wins
Your spark dies.

Her heart breaks
They only see the mask
‘You look pretty today’
But she is more than what they say.

‘I refuse to play this game of yours’
She throws the mask down
This girl is stronger than they think
Weighted words won’t make her sink.

Heart on fire
She walks away
Their sea of lies
Will no longer douse her flame.

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Taking chances…

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I’d rather live a life of “oh wells” than a life of “what ifs”.


Many of us, if not all, know how it feels to hold ourselves back.

To fall victim to self-doubt.

To convince ourselves that we’re content with the norm, the routine, and the mundane, when what we really crave is the extraordinary.

We fill our mind with the lie that what feels safe is good enough, because we know that to strive for anything more could potentially lead to failure and disappointment.

Perhaps we fear that it would confirm our self-doubt… and then what?

So we float along through life, ignoring opportunity and refusing to take risks, thinking that we can’t fail if we never really try.

But where does this leave us? Drifting aimlessly with the hope that one day, something will change – that we’ll encounter something wondrous without taking any risks of our own?

I am so guilty of this mentality, and while I’ve acknowledged it before, I’m learning more and more that true magic is more likely to occur when I’m going against the current.

So here’s to a life of risk-taking.

Here’s to a life of pushing the limits, creating my own future, and discovering the beauty of the uncertain.

After all, is there really such a thing as failure? I’d like to think that every experience could be learned from.

And in the end, I’d rather live a life of “oh wells” than a life of “what ifs”.

— Daisy xx

2014 – New Year, New Resolutions

Happy new year! It’s the first day of 2014, which for many people means creating a list of resolutions.

New year’s resolutions can be quite controversial and are often dismissed as a pointless cliche. However, the concept behind them – starting the year rejuvenated and focused with a clean slate – is entirely positive and beneficial if used in the right way.

Here are some of my tips for creating resolutions that stick!

1. Reflect
When starting the new year, it’s tempting to simply forget the past and move on with your life! However, the best way to start 2014 on the right foot is by reflecting on last year. I always hated the self-reflection worksheets that teachers used to hand out at school, but the process can allow you to start the year with wisdom and insight.

A few things to think about when reflecting:
– what prevented me from being my best and happiest self?
– what unhealthy habits/behaviours do I have?
– what were my priorities?

After considering the things in 2013 that didn’t fulfil your past resolutions, you are in a position to learn from your mistakes.

2. Forget negativity
New year’s resolutions tend to be wolves dressed as sheep – they appear positive, but subconsciously tell you that you aren’t good enough. This hidden negativity is what makes the typical resolution fail.
Health related resolutions in particular are guilty of making people feel bad about themselves. For example: lose 5 kilos, exercise more, stop eating bad foods etc. If we continuously focus on this type of resolution, we are reinforcing negative self-image. Not to mention making ourselves feel deprived of things that we enjoy!

So how can you prevent this?

Make sure that your resolutions are coming from a place of positivity!
Rather than resolving to exercise more, aim to live an active and energetic life.
Instead of aspiring to stop eating ‘bad’ foods, make the decision to eat nourishing, colourful whole foods.
The wording of your resolutions can make a huge difference!

3. Plan
A goal without a plan is a recipe for disaster. You might have an image of what you want, but if you don’t consider how to get there, you are less likely to succeed. Broad resolutions have their place with simpler aspirations such as spending more time with family. However, goals for significant change will thrive when paired with smaller steps.

For example, resolving to live actively – sounds great! But you won’t stick to it if you don’t consider how to do it. So, small steps toward your goal can be anything as simple as taking the stairs rather than the escalator, or going for a walk with a friend rather than grabbing coffee and cake. Mixing simpler steps with less desirable ones (early morning bootcamp, anyone?) will make your end goal seem a lot more achievable!

4. Reevaluate
Throughout the year, it’s important to revisit your resolutions and track your progress. This will allow you to make a note of all the things that have helped you towards your goal and all the things that haven’t. Some of your priorities may have changed and you might aspire to different things. Maybe you’ve even achieved one of your resolutions faster than you thought you would! Anything can happen, which is why reevaluating at regular intervals will help you to stick to your 2014 resolutions.

5. Reward (don’t punish)
You are a human being and mistakes are a possibility. If you break one of your resolutions, don’t punish yourself! Simply acknowledge what happened, consider and address the reasons behind it, and move on. I promise it isn’t the end of the world! One mistake doesn’t mean you have to give up on your resolution. Think of it as an opportunity to come back stronger and more determined than before!

While ‘punishment’ is a no-no, rewards are an absolute must! You’ve worked hard to achieve something and you deserve the chance to celebrate your success. So do something that makes you happy! This can literally be anything, as long as it doesn’t involve revisiting bad habits as a ‘treat’. And don’t forget to allow yourself to be proud of accomplishing your goal and sticking to your resolution!

Good luck with your resolutions – I hope 2014 brings you happiness!

— Daisy xx

No Ordinary Moments

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I was in the bathroom at uni last week when I noticed something written on the back of the toilet door. Someone had scrawled, “there are no ordinary moments”. Initially I discarded the statement as just another philosophical toilet-stall quote. However, it resonated with me.

There was an essence of truth in the statement, and it hit me – how easy is it to get so consumed with the complexities of life, that we forget to simply enjoy living? As a blogger and avid Instagramer, I find myself constantly on the lookout for the perfect moment. I’m always looking for things that will photograph well or make a great story. Reflecting on this, I realised how much of an influence social media can have on our lives. We are constantly bombarded with photos, statuses and tweets about what people are doing and what a great time they’re having – it’s hard not to feel the pressure to create similarly ‘perfect’ moments in our own lives.

Something I often neglect to realise is how much of life I miss when waiting for the perfect moment. How much more fun could we have at that party/concert/dinner if we didn’t spend the whole time writing about it on Facebook? How much better would your meal taste if you didn’t spend five minutes trying to get an Instagram-worthy photo and caption? (I am SO guilty of this!)

Jamie Cullum sang it perfectly in his song Photograph:

‘When I look back on my ordinary, ordinary life
I see so much magic, though I missed it at the time.”

This weekend, challenge yourself to reduce the amount of time you spend on social media and simply enjoy your life! Here are a few of my favourite ways to take some time out from the online world:
1. Do something that you claim you ‘haven’t got the time for’ – read a book, go for a long walk/hike, take a bubble bath or bake something. Do anything that you love to do, purely for the sake of it! See how much more time you have and how enjoyable life is without constant technology.
2. Spend quality time with loved ones – now you might be thinking, “I spend plenty of time with friends and family!” But how often do you pull out your phone while you’re together? Take the time to really appreciate moments with the people you love.
3. Look for the magic in everything – even when life seems dull, find a hint of joy/intrigue/wonder in that moment. I promise, when you’re looking for it, you’ll see it. Whether it’s the vibrant colours of nature, the sound of a baby laughing or the taste of a really good home-cooked meal, learn to relish every part of your day.

It’s ridiculously cliché, but when we look back on our lives we tend to realise how special the ‘ordinary’ moments really were. So I encourage you to change your way of thinking – realise today that there are no ordinary moments, and live life accordingly!

— Daisy xx